The world (including much of the Christian world) has accepted humanistic philosophies of parenting that are diametrically opposed to the Bible and statistically have never been proven to work. The list of fallacious approaches to parenting is almost unending, but among the most consistently deceptive is the idea that if we do more for our children they will love us. Sacrificing for anyone (including our children) draws us to them but does not draw them to us.
Forty five years of family counseling has shown me the less that is required of children in sacrificing for their family, the less the child is bonded to the family, and the less grateful the child becomes. The less grateful the child becomes the more entitled they feel. Entitlement always, at some point, moves from expecting everything to be handed freely, to demanding it, to taking it! We don’t turn our children into slaves, but until your child is investing in the family by serving they will not feel bonded to the family. JOIN ME this week and learn more about how to create a family bond that gives rise to healthy personal connections!
